Is there any "fair" adblocker? [on hold]

I don't know much about adblockers but to my understanding they seem to block requests from third-party sites that would display advertisements on the webpage i am browsing thanks to filters, then the content is not loaded and not displayed.

So my question is the following, considering the website earns money for displaying ads and that the only way to know if you have or not an adblocker is to check if you did load the ads, is it possible to make an adblocker that actually loads the ads and then simply doesn't display them?

Unless i am wrong that would allow the website to earn the money while thinking you see the ad, but you actually don't. As an extra, websites wouldn't display the "please disable adblock" messages or block you as some do.

I would like to support some websites but i hate seeing ads and disabling my adblocker simply isn't a solution (nor donating to improve my karma as some could suggest), i can clearly afford the bit of extra bandwith consumption caused by the loading of ads and the small loss of performance due to their "cleaning" from the page i see.

Extra question, i know some ads are only rewarding when the visitor clicks on it, would it be possible to fake a click on the ad, load it in the background, give the money to the website and still see nothing?

Thanks for answers

PS: Since the adblocker i suggest would make advertisers loose money i wonder if "fair" is the best adjective. (I am not english)

EDIT: Removed the part where i asked for existing software, please reopen my question. If it doesnt belong here (despite i see dozens of adblock-related questions on the right) where can i ask it?